Despite meditating every morning, I have a brain that pulls away from the present moment like a hundred pound lab on a leash who sees the dog park in the distance. Over there! That is where the action is! Let’s GO!
I’m currently reading a delightful book called Awakening Joy by James Baraz and he is reminding me, like so many others before him, that writing down things you are grateful for is a way to increase your joy, your ability to enjoy the moment, all the good stuff. I find the little abandoned notebook by my bed purchased for this very practice a year ago. I blow off the dust, open it and see that attempt lasted all of six days. I’m a better person now. I’m ready for this.
Almost two weeks later, remembering more days than not, I notice a certain predictability to my entries. One might even call it a rut. It is abundantly clear that I really love my bed and its smooth sheets. And my family of course. They make the list all the time. As does coffee and tea and cranberry biscotti and lemons. All good things but every so slightly repetitive.
Surely there is more.
And then in shower this morning I was thinking about how many things I take for granted. Which is a kind of back door entrance to finding gratitude.
The most obvious thing that I take for granted was literally hitting me in the head. I was in a warm shower! It made me think about people who lived in past centuries, before indoor plumbing and water heaters, before such a thing as a warm shower existed (or people who live in poverty now). What an absolute luxury that would be! Getting clean could not have been as much fun before someone figured out how to warm up water.
Here I am, in a safe, protected place taking a warm shower and I wonder what that would have felt like to say, Laura Ingalls Wilder (I was obsessed by her books growing up). I remember her describing a weekly bath, they had to heat the water in the fireplace and pour it into a big tin tub and then her dad went first, then her mom, then she and her sister. All in same water. Cooling quickly, no doubt. And here I am, every morning hopping in to the perfect temperature for as long as I want, fresh water, used by nobody else before me.
With good smelling soaps! I wondered who came up with soap and then who thought to scent it?
I never even think about my warm water or my good smelling soap and shampoo. More typically I step into the shower and I think about the HVAC insurance paperwork I need to fill out and getting my son’s senior picture submitted in time and whether I need to take the dog to the vet because he’s been dragging his butt again. I think about whether I’m going to shave my legs (shorts? pants? time available?). Mundane things. Future things. Not even as fun as the dog park but dragging me towards them nonetheless.
But today, I pretended I was from a different century and someone had given me the opportunity to try out this new, only for the very wealthy, thing called a warm shower and I was in heaven. It seemed like a miracle, this warm water raining down on me, these delicious smells rubbing all over my body, the chance to feel clean and warm and safe all at the same time. I sent up a little thank you prayer to all the creatives who came up with the elements I was enjoying.
I thought about how people have probably always wanted a way to clean themselves. Maybe starting in rivers (Cold! Maybe dirty. Maybe full of snakes and other critters nipping at the tender parts.) And then maybe rudimentary tubs with river or lake or rain barrel water. And then whoever figured out aqueducts and sending water different places. And then someone said, ‘hey! This would be so much better if it was warm’ and figured that out. And someone noticed, hmm if I rub this stuff on my body the dirt comes off easier and soap was invented/discovered. And then someone thought to add a good smell to that substance.
I could go research all this, see how true my imagining is, but no matter how it happened, people came up with ideas that added together to create a shower, something that would have been an unimaginable luxury to so many who lived before this was all invented.
And I step in there every morning, not even paying attention.
So yes, gratitude can be accessed by noticing what we take for granted.
Which, once you really start thinking about it, is just about everything.
I look around and realize that almost everything in my life, as mundane as it seems sometimes, is built from the magic of other people’s ideas. People who didn’t chase the wispy floating what-if’s out of their head. People who dreamed and made things and when they didn’t work made something else. Harnessing electricity, coming up with red means stop green means go to keep us all from crashing into each other, combining ingredients into something that makes a pancake, launching a tin can into the air filled with people and bringing them back down safely in another state. Individuals came up with ideas and put their ideas together with other individuals’ ideas and here we are, talking to each other through our watches and eating Toblerone infused blondies.
I have walked around this whole day filled with the happiness of this morning’s shower. All day I have thought about how lucky I am to have that shower in my house, available whenever I want it. It took the sting out of the butt dragging dog and the hour long wait on hold to sort out a medical bill and the ever-deflating what to make for dinner decision.
Tonight’s gratitude list is already taken care of. Warm water on demand. Scented soap. Privacy and safety whenever I need it (it never occurred to me to be grateful to be able to get clean without worrying about snakes but now this is my favorite thing about my shower, it is snake free).
I have a feeling tomorrow’s list is going to come pretty easily too.
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